I’ve had a few requests for this post, so here it is…
so, you’ve decided to have a baby..
but all that has happened so far is a lot of trying, waiting around, and negative pregnancy tests. Maybe you’re like me and spent much of your life believing that getting pregnant was a breeze. That’s why you avoided any “accidents” and took precautions until you were ready to become a mother. It’s a big decision to decide on starting a family, and when that time comes, it’s exciting! But, what do you do when a few months have passed by, and you continue to be greeted by your monthly friend? Let me help you with a few tips on how to improve your chances of conceiving.
Aside from the obvious love making part…there’s actually quite a bit that you can do to help conception. Many of you may not know this, but my husband and I struggled for over a year with pregnancy (you can go back to my 12 August 2017 post and read more about our story.) It took us about 3 months each time, and on top of that, we lost a few pregnancies early on. Despite how hard our experience was, we certainly learned a thing or two about improving our chances of getting pregnant and I’m stoked to share them with you.
Basal Body Temperature Charting (BBT)
A major part of getting pregnant is “the right timing” and knowing when that is. For the fertile myrtles out there, you don’t really need to worry about this! But, if you’ve gone a couple of months without any success, let me introduce you to charting your basal body temperature (BBT.) You’ll need two things, a basal thermometer that takes your temperature to the tenth degree (ex: 98.8,) and something to record it with (a calendar, journal, phone app, BBT chart, etc.) What you’ll want to do starting on the first day of your period is, every morning when you wake up, ***literally before you do ANYTHING***, take your BBT and record it. After a month of doing so, you will hopefully be able to see some kind of pattern like I did.
For me, my BBT after my period would be fairly consistent, around 97.4-97.9 each day only changing by .1 or .2 day-by-day. Every month, there would be a day with an obvious spike of .5-1.0 degree in my BBT and that’s how I would know that I had ovulated the day before. Eventually, I was able to make a pretty good guess at when I would ovulate the following month! Why is this important? Ladies, the 3-4 days before ovulation is your window of opportunity, or what I like to call, the perfect storm for conceiving. These few days is when you want to cozy up to your companion and get lovey! To finish off the BBT charting, once you’ve seen that your temperature has spiked, pray to the heavens that it stays high! In the event that it does stay high, you are most likely pregnant and it will continue to be elevated throughout your pregnancy. If you see that your temperature has dropped back down to a normal number, expect your next period to come and gear up for giving it another go the next month.
Start taking prenatals now! If your body needs those extra nutrients and vitamins while you are pregnant, wouldn’t it make sense to prep your body beforehand so that you’re ready for pregnancy? If you’re struggling to get pregnant, this can help prepare your body to be the perfect vessel for your baby and having a healthy pregnancy. The extra folic acid that a fetus needs is SO important especially in that first trimester, you can read more about why here.
What else you can do
Don’t go to the bathroom right away after being intimate, you need to give the sperm a chance to get where they need to go.
Get intimate every OTHER day to ensure a healthy sperm count when it needs to happen.
Men: try not to sit in a hot tub or hot bath, high temperatures can lower sperm production.
Don’t get up right away, try relaxing and laying down for at least 10 minutes after intimacy. Maybe even let gravity help, I’m sure you can get creative!
You can keep track of your cervical mucus.
Get healthy!! Good health and exercise is always a good way to boost your fertility and reduce any risks.
Go see a doctor for extra advice and/or help with fertility.
you say you’re pregnant?
If you’ve experienced some issues with getting pregnant and find yourself finally pregnant (woohoo!!) go to a doctor right away so that they can check and monitor your levels. This is where I struggled and why I had two miscarriages, my body didn’t produce enough progesterone on it’s own and therefore I would lose the pregnancy very early on. Had I known to go to the doctor right away, they could have checked my levels and helped me maintain my progesterone to help keep the pregnancy! Eventually we figured this out together with a doctor and this is why we have our son Kana 🙂
I hope these tips can help you on your journey to motherhood, they definitely worked for me! I know that much of getting pregnant is just a big waiting game, you wait for the right timing, you wait to take a test, if it comes back negative, you have to wait until the right time comes back again, or if it’s positive, you have to wait 9 months for your baby..it can feel overwhelming and endless! But please try to keep your eye on the big picture. From our experience, a year of trying to figure pregnancy out and get the timing right seemed so minimal once we had our sweet baby in our arms (and now it seems like time is going by way too fast!) So learn what you can, and make the most of this exciting time in your life and most importantly, take care of yourself!
“Even miracles take a little time.”-The Fairy Godmother, Cinderella